As of mid-September, it will be a year since the break up with the ex. This milestone does not make me nervous or sad - it just shows that a year goes by very quickly. But I think I am seriously/finally/legitimately ready to meet someone new. Or at the very least, someone new on whom to fixate (is that grammatically correct? I didn't want to end that sentence with a preposition. Amateur hour).
I don't really have much of an office environment anymore in which to meet men which is what I unfortunately depended upon in the past. I have learned twice over that meeting men at the office is a bad idea. (Bad bad bad).
I tried OK Cupid for a time, and was always disgusted by how trashy the men were. I am a classy broad, and I just felt like OK Cupid is like a horrible Las Vegas lounge online - complete with the bad hair and bad pick up lines. I wasn't interested, and I gave it many chances.
A friend of a friend I met casually told me that he met his girlfriend on Match.com, and gently pushed me to join, stating simply that paying for a dating service made that pool vastly superior than that on the free OK Cupid.
I am not ashamed to admit that I have joined Match.com. Without a true office environment, the only men I am meeting right now are actors, and while actors are fine people, they are not perhaps the most dateable group. I know, I'm a racist (and yes, in LA and NYC, actors are their own race of people). Maybe someday I will find a lovely (grounded) actor and end up with him but until then, I am going to stay away from actors. And managers. My mother even declares that any entertainment industry chap should be strictly verboten, but I feel like someone outside of it wouldn't understand what I was talking about half the time, and having to explain it ad infinitum would quickly cause me to lose my patience.
A good proportion of the men on Match.com are rather good looking, have real jobs (some in the biz, some outside of if), and have gone to some pretty tough schools. I know, I am being an elitist snobby bitch. But you know what? It's not wrong to have a type and to know what you want. Men do it all. the. time. I also feel like Match.com protects one more from the skeeze because it simply doesn't allow it. The Match.com Overlords have to approve every iota one submits or changes to one's profile, and while at first this felt a bit Big Brotherish to me, it makes sense. They are serious about what they do, and it shows.
I am already trading emails with a few gentlemen and who knows? At the very least, I am putting myself out there and I find that the second one opens up in such a manner, people (and by people, I mean men) notice.
My name is Simone Finch, and I'm not only the Match.com president (I wish), I'm also a client.
PS Candace Bushnell (of Sex & the City fame) said high speed internet ruined the dating scene. I don't think that's true - however, high speed internet certainly CHANGED the dating scene forever. But she is right in the sense that you no longer have to leave your bedroom in order to find someone. It's thrilling, and also simultaneously terrifying.
I don't really have much of an office environment anymore in which to meet men which is what I unfortunately depended upon in the past. I have learned twice over that meeting men at the office is a bad idea. (Bad bad bad).
I tried OK Cupid for a time, and was always disgusted by how trashy the men were. I am a classy broad, and I just felt like OK Cupid is like a horrible Las Vegas lounge online - complete with the bad hair and bad pick up lines. I wasn't interested, and I gave it many chances.
A friend of a friend I met casually told me that he met his girlfriend on Match.com, and gently pushed me to join, stating simply that paying for a dating service made that pool vastly superior than that on the free OK Cupid.
I am not ashamed to admit that I have joined Match.com. Without a true office environment, the only men I am meeting right now are actors, and while actors are fine people, they are not perhaps the most dateable group. I know, I'm a racist (and yes, in LA and NYC, actors are their own race of people). Maybe someday I will find a lovely (grounded) actor and end up with him but until then, I am going to stay away from actors. And managers. My mother even declares that any entertainment industry chap should be strictly verboten, but I feel like someone outside of it wouldn't understand what I was talking about half the time, and having to explain it ad infinitum would quickly cause me to lose my patience.
A good proportion of the men on Match.com are rather good looking, have real jobs (some in the biz, some outside of if), and have gone to some pretty tough schools. I know, I am being an elitist snobby bitch. But you know what? It's not wrong to have a type and to know what you want. Men do it all. the. time. I also feel like Match.com protects one more from the skeeze because it simply doesn't allow it. The Match.com Overlords have to approve every iota one submits or changes to one's profile, and while at first this felt a bit Big Brotherish to me, it makes sense. They are serious about what they do, and it shows.
I am already trading emails with a few gentlemen and who knows? At the very least, I am putting myself out there and I find that the second one opens up in such a manner, people (and by people, I mean men) notice.
My name is Simone Finch, and I'm not only the Match.com president (I wish), I'm also a client.
PS Candace Bushnell (of Sex & the City fame) said high speed internet ruined the dating scene. I don't think that's true - however, high speed internet certainly CHANGED the dating scene forever. But she is right in the sense that you no longer have to leave your bedroom in order to find someone. It's thrilling, and also simultaneously terrifying.
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